Fitness

How to Train for Muscle Growth: The Real Way Women See Results

Introduction and Misconceptions

Want to build visible muscle tone without spending hours in the gym? After 10,000+ in person client sessions, I can tell you: real results come from a science-backed approach, not random influencer workouts.

woman lifting weights with dumbbell in gym

Most women I work with want body recomposition: losing fat while building lean, defined muscle. The most effective way to do that? Consistent hypertrophy training (that’s resistance training designed to build muscle) paired with a nutrient-dense, minimally processed diet.

If you’re saving social media workouts designed for someone with completely different genetics, training history or goals, you’re wasting time. Instead, start with what’s scientifically proven, experiment from there and adjust based on what actually works for your body.

What Makes Muscle Grow: Mechanical Tension Explained

The intensity of a workout is what matters when it comes to building muscle. And this has nothing to do with feeling out of breath or the calories burned according to your Apple Watch.

The mechanism to build muscle that we know the most about is mechanical tension. Mechanical tension is a force experienced in a muscle contraction. Mechanical tension peaks when we perform sets to failure or within a few reps of failure. Failure is the point where the activated muscles are incapable of completing another repetition without assistance.

Failure is not to be confused with fatigue. Studies show people think they’re training to failure but they can actually do 5-7 more reps. I can tell when a client is approaching failure because there is an involuntary slowing of contracting speed. This is when there are high degrees of force production and the active muscle fibers experience mechanical tension which is the driver for muscle growth.

How Heavy Should You Lift?

When following a program, select a weight that allows you to perform an exercise for the designated number of reps and be within 1 to 3 reps from mechanical failure (also known as Reps in Reserve or RIR). When I say failure, I mean technical failure, where you can still complete the repetition with proper form.

Both my male and female clients come to me with fears of getting bulky when lifting heavier weights. Mainstream media still promotes light weights and high repetitions to build a “long and lean” physique. The only way to “tone up” is through building our muscle. This is the foundation for a lean physique and the best thing you can do for your health and longevity.

Meta-analyses in 2017 and 2022 found that lighter weights taken to failure can build just as much muscle as heavier loads when total effort is matched.¹² There is an equal hypertrophy stimulus for sets taken from 5 to 30 reps when volume is equated and sets are taken to the same proximity to failure. Gains in 1 repetition maximum (1 RM) strength were significantly greater in favor of high vs low load training.

It’s not about the “perfect” rep range, it’s about the reps that count. The final few reps, when tension and effort are highest, drive growth.

Let’s compare lifting heavier loads vs. lighter loads for the average lifter:

High Load Training for Lower Reps >60% of 1 RM (~ 6-15 reps)

✔ Rep ranges of 6-10 give you a maximal strength benefit in addition to hypertrophy

✔ Works better for bigger muscle groups and compound exercises like traditional deadlifts, squats, pull ups

✔ Build bone and tendon stiffness for longevity and joint health

✔ Higher-threshold motor units are recruited almost immediately. Don’t need to get as close to failure.

✔Better accuracy on RIR and being close to failure

✔Less systemic stress

Low Load Training for Higher Reps ≤60% of 1RM (~ 15-30 reps)

✔ Can work well for isolation exercises like lateral raises and tricep extensions

X Creates more lasting fatigue - central nervous system (CNS) fatigue and cardio demand

X Form more likely to break down at high rep ranges on compound exercises

X More reps needed before you hit failure to get the same end result

X Need to get closer to failure (low RIR) in order to activate larger motor units

X The muscle “burn” signals fatigue, which is not the same as failure. Unless you’re close to mechanical failure, you aren’t building muscle.

X When taken to failure, lower weights are less optimal at bringing mechanical tension to the targeted muscle. For example, if you want to build glutes and you do 20 reps of a squat, what muscle is fatiguing first? For the average person, it will be their cardiovascular system, core and back extensors. The muscle we are targeting needs to fail first.

Based on the above comparison, it’s ideal to keep most hypertrophy training within the 6 to 12 rep range at all times.

Progressive Overload: How to Know It’s Working

It’s important to track your progress to see if what you’re doing is working. Progressive overload is feedback that adaptations are occurring for muscle growth.

If your reps, weight, or performance improves over time, under the same conditions, it means your program is working. It also ensures the stimulus on the muscles continues to be the same. If we never go up, the exercise would begin to feel easier and mechanical tension would go down.

If this week I hit 8 reps of a Romanian deadlift at 125lbs with 2 RIR, then the next week I’ll want to perform the same (8x125lbs) or do more reps, increase the weight, or a combination of both under the same conditions. A good progression would be 6 reps with 1RIR at 135lbs. You don’t have to PR every session, but you should over time.

Tracking your lifts gives you objective feedback to ensure you’re improving and working out with intention and purpose. It’s not about just doing more volume, it’s about doing better.

Volume & Frequency: How Much is Enough?

We can dose resistance training during the week by manipulating the weekly set volume and frequency.

Weekly Set Volume

Training volume is the total number of pounds lifted per week. Volume = sets x reps x weight lifted. Training volume can also be the weekly number of “hard sets”, or sets per muscle group which are close to failure.

A 2022 study on training volume found that 12–20 sets per muscle group per week is the optimal range for most lifters.³ Beyond this set range, the data suggests substantial diminishing returns for hypertrophy and even stronger ones for strength gains. A newer lifter can start closer to 10 sets per muscle group per week. As you get stronger and lift heavier, this naturally increases your total volume so you don’t always have to keep adding more sets.

The minimum effective dose which is sufficient to elicit detectable hypertrophy is 4 sets. The more efficient range is 5-10 sets per week per muscle group for hypertrophy and 2 sets for strength. While doing 10+ sets will produce greater gains in muscle growth than doing fewer than 10 sets, the greatest gains will come from your minimalistic volume.

We do know that more is not always better. Doing too much volume can lead to injury and fatigue. And on the other hand, if you’re short on time, doing just 4 sets per muscle group will still generate stimulus for growth.

Frequency

A 2016 meta-analysis showed that training each muscle group twice per week led to more growth than once per week.⁴ When equated for volume, there was no evidence that training a muscle group 3 times a week was better than 2 times.

Muscle growth doesn’t scale endlessly with more sets. Up to a point, volume helps, but after 10-20 sets per muscle group per week, the gains slow down and fatigue ramps up.

Workout Splits That Fit Real Life

Consistency is the most important thing when choosing a split. Most people can commit to lifting 2 to 3 days per week year round. The majority of your gains will be in the 5 to 10 sets per body part per week. Each workout will have 4 to 6 exercises for a total of 8 to 12 working sets.

If you’re lifting with high intensity with proximity to failure (1-3 RIR) you will create adaptation. Lift 5 or more days a week and you won’t give your muscles enough time to recover. You’ll build up fatigue which affects the motor unit recruitment and energy in future workouts and increases cortisol.

Workout Splits

Full Body
2 to 3 times per week
2 to 3 sets per muscle group

Upper / Lower / Full Body
3 times per week
2 to 3 sets per muscle group

Upper / Lower / Upper / Lower
4 times per week
2 to 3 sets per muscle group

Exercise Selection: Why Basic Beats Fitness Trends

We see a lot of fancy exercises on social media. Curtsy lunge to bicep curl, Romanian deadlift to upright row, burpee to shoulder press.

Choreographed and complex exercises, while entertaining, cause a breakdown in form and a decrease in motor unit recruitment and fiber force. Doing too many unstable exercises that require coordination cause fatigue and lower the force production and mechanical tension in the muscle. Too much variety makes it impossible to track progressive overload and know if your program is working.

Take a bicep curl to reverse lunge exercise as an example. I can perform bicep curls with 15lb dumbbells to technical failure for 8 reps, and I can lunge with 45lb dumbbells for 8 reps per leg. I won’t challenge my leg muscles enough to stimulate growth with this combination exercise. My upper body will fatigue before there is enough motor unit recruitment in my lower body to stimulate adaptation and growth.

Don’t get distracted by flashy workouts or aesthetic edits on social media. The real results come from nailing the basics: squat, hinge, push, pull - done with great form, steady progression, and consistency.

If you’re just starting out, your job isn’t to entertain yourself, it’s to build a foundation that sets you up for long-term success. And if you’re already lifting? Mastery comes from doing the simple things exceptionally well.

Train smart. Stick to the plan. Trust the process.


References

¹ Schoenfeld BJ et al. (2017). “Strength and hypertrophy adaptations between low- vs. high-load resistance training.” J Strength Cond Res. PMID: 28834797

² Schoenfeld BJ et al. (2022). “Effects of different resistance training frequencies on muscle hypertrophy.” Sports Med.PMID: 35015560

³ Schoenfeld BJ et al. (2022). “Resistance Training Volume Enhances Muscle Hypertrophy.” Sports Med. PMID: 35291645

⁴ Schoenfeld BJ et al. (2016). “Effects of Resistance Training Frequency on Muscular Adaptations.” Sports Med. PMID: 27102172

⁵ Baz-Valle E et al. (2022). “Dose-response relationship of weekly resistance training volume and muscle hypertrophy: A systematic review.” SportRxiv. https://sportrxiv.org/index.php/server/preprint/view/460/967


Full Body Kettlebell Workout Part 3

Full Body Kettlebell Workout

A NEW full body kettlebell routine designed to build lean toned muscle on the arms, legs and core and boost metabolism for effective fat loss. With only one single piece of equipment required, it’s SO easy to get this workout done from anywhere in under 20 minutes.

Complete 4 Rounds as a Circuit
12 x Romanian deadlift
10/side x Single arm press
10/side x Alternating lunge with pass through
10/side x Clean and press
10/side x Plank pull throughs
10 x Pullover with tricep extension

For more full body kettlebell routines, check out Part 1 and Part 2.

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Full Body Kettlebell Workout Part 2

The previous full body kettlebell workout was so popular I wanted to give you another routine. This workout will shred every muscle in the body in under 20 minutes. Don’t have kettlebells? You can also substitute a dumbbell.

Complete 4 Rounds as a Circuit
10/side x Rear foot elevated lunge
10/side x Single arm press
5/side x Offset kettlebell squat
10 x Jump squat
8/side x Windmill
30 x Mountain climbers

Choose a weight that is challenging but where you can do the designated repetitions with good form. For women, a kettlebell that is 10 to 25lbs is a good place to start. For men, 25 to 45lbs. I am using a 17lb (8kg) and 22lb (10kg) in this video.


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Full Body Kettlebell Workout

Full Body Kettlebell Workout

This full body kettlebell workout is amazing for weight loss and hitting every muscle in the body. Blast fat while toning the abs, arms and legs. There are so many benefits to kettlebell training, from burning a lot of calories in short amount of time to taking up very little space in a home gym.

Choose a weight that is challenging but where you can do the designated repetitions with good form. For women, a kettlebell that is 10 to 25lbs is a good place to start. For men, 25 to 45lbs.

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Weight Training for Beginners

Weight Training for Beginners: The Top 5 Rules!

When you’re new to weight training it helps to know exactly what to focus on. Starting a new routine at a gym or even from home can be intimidating. We always want to make sure we’re doing the most effective exercises and doing them properly. Which leads me to the first and most important rule.

1. Form and Technique are Everything

As a beginner to weight training, we need to build a foundation of proper movement patterns. Weight training is a skill. And just like any other skill, it takes time to learn. It’s best to start with light to medium weights you can safely control and with good form. Set aside some time to research and watch exercise videos to learn proper technique. Even better, invest in a coach for a few sessions. If you live in Fairfield County, I would love to help you.

Get your mind into the muscle and create as much tension as possible in the muscle you are working. Avoid “cheating” or transferring of weight to surrounding muscle groups. The goal is to create maximum tension in the muscle. Tension is squeezing a muscle forcefully.

2. Follow a Consistent Routine

To make lasting changes in a physique, you need to follow a progressive training plan. The best routine for beginners is 3 to 4 workouts per week with either a full body or upper/lower split. This way you are working each major muscle group 2 or 3 days per week. This frequency will stimulate change in the muscle. The stronger a muscle, the tighter and firmer it becomes. For a full body workout, select one exercise from every movement pattern. Perform 10 to 12 repetitions for 3 to 4 sets. Include a day of recovery in between each major muscle group.

Movement Patterns
1. Upper body push: bench press, dumbbell chest press, overhead press, push up
2. Upper body pull: chin up, lat pulldown, row, single arm row
3. Squat: goblet squat, front squat, box squat
4. Lunge: split squat, reverse lunge, rear foot elevated lunge, front foot elevated lunge, walking lunge
5. Hinge: deadlift, hip bridge, hip thrust, pull through, kettlebell swing, single leg deadlift, good morning
6. Weighted Carry and Core: farmer carry, single-arm carry, racked carry, overhead carry, plank, side plank, deadbug, ab rollout, banded rotation, chop and lift

So a full body workout might look like this:
A1. 3x12 Dumbbell chest press
A2. 3x12 Seated row
B1. 3x12 Back squat
B2. 3x12 Barbell hip thrusts
C1. 3x10/leg Reverse lunge
C2. 3x40 yd/side Single-arm carry
C3. 3x10/side x Deadbug

Consistency is key. You need to stick to one plan, be confident in your approach and show up. Sometimes it can take four weeks before you notice positive changes in your body. You have to trust the process and celebrate the small wins in the journey, like getting to the gym 3 to 4 times a week for a month. I have all my online clients track their workouts to ensure accountability and consistency. Visualize your end goal, the person you want to be and how you want to feel. Use this as motivation to follow through and be successful. Anyone who has made a permanent body transformation has made this a lifestyle.

3. You Don’t Have to Kill Yourself

A workout doesn’t have to be stressful to be a good workout. An effective workout can be completed in as little as 30 to 40 minutes.

For each exercise, you should be able to lift the weight for just the number of designated repetitions, in the above workout, 10-12 reps. If you can only do 8 reps, the weight is too heavy and if you can do more than 12, it’s too light. For more on how heavy a weight should be, read this article.

We want to create just enough tension in the muscle so it has to adapt and grow. Yes, we want the muscle to grow. Muscle tissue is dense and takes up very little space compared to body fat. There is no such thing as “bulky” or “lean” muscle. The “toned” physique most of my clients come to me for is building lean muscle in the absence of body fat. Muscle gives the body shape, and turns the body into a fat burning machine due to a higher metabolism and promoting fat loss hormones.

4. Cardio Guidelines

Always prioritize weight training workouts and then add cardio on top of this. The most important cardio is to be active on a daily basis. Get a fitness tracker and hit 10,000 steps per day. Cardio in between weight training workouts helps with soreness and muscle recovery. Cardio can also be added to the end of a weight training workout. Include a wide variety of cardio at least twice per week from steady state, medium intensity and high intensity interval training (HIIT).

HIIT can be done up to 2 times per week where you sprint for 10-20 seconds followed by a 20-40 second recovery interval. Continue alternating between a sprint and recovery for 10 to 15 minutes. Complete a 5-8 minute warm up and cool down. Sprints are best done on a sled, bike, stair climber, and as hill sprints.

Medium intensity includes circuit training, running, and cycling. Perform 15-30 minutes with a 5-8 minute warm up and cool down. This can be done 2 to 3 times per week.

Steady state cardio includes light jogging, brisk walking, zumba, cycling and hiking. Perform 1 to 3 times per week for 30-60 minutes.

5. Nutrition and Recovery

With this plan you’ll be in the gym 3 to 4 hours a week. There’s 168 hours in the week. What we do these other hours is more important than what we do in the gym. To transform a physique, an unprocessed diet is essential. Have lean protein and vegetables at every meal and complex carbs post workout and at one additional meal. Drink at least half your bodyweight in ounces of water each day. I have dozens of articles on how to put together a balanced healthy diet that you can read here. Getting eight hours of quality sleep each night is needed for workout recovery, energy levels and balancing hormones. Find a stress management practice that works for you whether it’s meditation, deep breathing, hobbies, sauna, or yoga.

Have fun with your workouts! Yes, they’re going to be intense, but this is how we get stronger and healthier from the inside out. Experiment with a variety of equipment at the gym, treat yourself to a new toy for the home gym, find outdoor space to do cardio. For a sustainable body transformation, our workouts need to be enjoyable.

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How Much Weight Should You Lift

I get asked all the time about how much weight to lift on a given exercise. We all want to feel like we’re doing enough in our workouts. While weight selection is completely individual to each person depending on lifting experience and body size and type, there are still basic guidelines that apply to all of us. While we do need to lift heavy enough loads to reduce body fat and increase lean muscle, what’s more important than the number on the weight is how hard our muscles are working.